I have no proof of this, I don’t need it – I simply understand it to be true. The current sexual harassment scandals and the ‘war on men’ are improving Donald Trump’s image.
I can hear you protesting and saying it’s just the oppossite. Yeah, I want you to be right, but you’re wrong. Here’s the problem.
Men are biologically driven to use our cocks. It’s a biological impulse that can overcome our ethics, our good judgment, our common sense, and nearly everything else. The only reason all men are not rapists is because most of us are wired to be turned on by a sexual partner who desires us. If our ethical beliefs align with our sex drive then we are good – it’s not the other way around. As a man, I feel pretty certain that the overriding factor is the desire to experience sexual release and if there is a way to do that which fits with societal norms we will use it. For most of us, marriage and relationships provide that release – which is a big reason why we go that route – sorry romantics. I’m not saying there are not other reasons – but this is bigger than it gets credit for.
I’m not sure why the current multiple situations think its okay to ignore this aspect – my guess is that it’s because women don’t share the same compulsion – we can pretend they do, but they don’t – or maybe they have a superior built in control system that works better than ours – in any event – there is a word for a woman who does have the same wiring – nymphomaniac – it’s telling that there is no word for the male version – because the word is simply – man. Men understand this and women simply cannot – just like men can’t understand menstruation or child birth – they are not part of our biology. The sex drive in men, however, is very very real.
There is a gradient, I’m sure. Is there a heterosexual man alive who could not be seduced by the most beautiful woman in the world? Maybe…but probably not. This despite everything he might stand to lose for it – marriage, family, respect, position, money, power – whatever – in the moments when he is being seduced – all rational thoughts of those things disappear. Governments know this, spies know it, and let’s face it – everyone knows this.
If a reasonably attractive woman clearly offers sex to a man – any man – there is a pretty good chance he will take it. Why? He can’t fucking help it. I know that’s not what women want to hear, I know that we all want to pretend that it’s a choice he is making, but it’s not. Unless this is a seriously self-awakened and self-aware and fully conscious individual – he will succomb to the offer.
But wait, you say, that’s different. He is being offered, not using power or position or percieved control to take advantage of a woman. It’s not different. Sorry. If the possibility exists and the liklihood of success is better than the liklihood of failure (or some such metric) then he will go for the sex. Bill Clinton with an intern? He had everything to lose and is arguably one of the smartest men in the world – but he did it. Why? His rational brain was not working. His sexual desire was making up new rationales to make it okay for him. Donald Trump grabbing women and kissing them or grabbing their pussy – same thing, no matter how awful it is. Roy Moore dating teenage girls – despicable, but in his brain – rational. Al Franken – rationalized as okay. Harvey Weinstein – using what he had to get what he wanted. Louis C.K. – brain flooded with desire…And the list goes on and on…Bill Cosby, etc etc
So, am I saying that these things were okay? Of course not. We need to control ourselves. I’d like to think that if I were in a position of power, being the person I am today, I would not take advantage of a known power diferential – but, deep in my man-loins – there is a sympathy for all of these guys because I understand that what they did was find a way to have sex with women they were attracted to – and that is what men are wired to do.
The wider and deeper this war goes – the more it drives men to repress that this biological drive exists and the more that happens, the more they look at Donald Trump as someone who represents them. I know that on the surface – all of this seems damaging for Trump, but in the areas that we men are no longer allowed to let the world know about – it is building a sympathy for him.
I see almost all of this as a result of the artificial and imposed American protestant ethics about sex. In the USA we have some of the most backwards ideas about sex of anywhere in the world. We are more sexually repressed than any developed nation in the world.
Legalized and regulated prostitution and the eradication of the stigma of prostitution would solve a lot of this. Educated, healthy, and well paid prostitutes would create the release valve for this problem. I promise you that if there were a hotel where Al Franken, Louis C.K., and the rest of them could go to pay for sex without any stigma attached – lots of these problems would disappear. You may not like to hear that, but it’s true. And, believe it or not, there are women that would welcome it as a respected and safe profession – again, it’s a matter of stigma. The Courtesans of ancient Persia, the Geisha of ancient Japan, even the Madams of the Old West – these were not considered dirty or befouled or ruined women – and that made the difference.
So, like everyone, I’m watching this sexual harrassment thing unfold – and like everyone, I’m horrified by it. I’m also horrified by the fact that I think it gives Donald Trump a much better chance at winning re-election in three years.